Michele Koh Morollo
2 min readOct 30, 2021

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I hear you. Really appreciate your concern Julie! :) I do my best to take care of myself. He does his best too — deals with his insurance, his medical equipment, his diet, and of course the regular blood-glucose testing. Most of the time we manage alright. I am always reminded of how type-1 diabetes is a round-the-clock illness and very psychologically exhausting for the person who has it, and I can certainly see that it’s lots of hard work! I’m pretty hands-off with the day-to-day stuff. He watches his own eating, glucose monitoring, calibrates his insulin pump and puts on his CGM to himself. The only time I am “activated” is when he gets grumpy from the highs, depressed from the strain of the illness, and when he gets the scary lbses. You mentioned that you nursed your husband through 2 surgeries and he nursed you through 4. I think if I had been nursed through even 1 surgery or bout of illness by him, I might not feel so short-changed! I have never been in a position where he has had to deal with the emotional or psychological stress of me having poor health (chronic or otherwise). I know this may sound self-centered, but the problem for me is not so much that he doesn’t take responsibility for his disease, but that I have always been physically healthy, so I feel like things are little lopsided in our marriage. But I guess the idea of “equality” — in marriage or anywhere else — only really exists in theory.

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Michele Koh Morollo
Michele Koh Morollo

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